#BWPC – DAY 5

Hello Beautiful and welcome to Day 5. We spent the last four days praying for ourselves. Today and for the next three days, we will be praying for our husbands. We will be praying for them in the area of Leadership and Communication.

Communication is very important if we and the family must be led. The children of Israel had Moses as a leader and he communicated with them all the instructions and mind of God per time till they were able to cross the Red Sea and prepare towards the promised land. Communication is something that has always existed in Leaders all through the Bible. Now communication can be good or bad and uplifting or heart breaking.

If our husbands don’t communicate with us, tell us things, give instruction or correct wrongs in love, how best can they lead us and the entire family? If you husband’s mode of communication is by tearing you down, how would you respect his leadership? For some, communication in your home is top notch. For others, “we are getting there.” And another, they have to always keep guessing or avoid it totally. We want to be carried along in the affairs of our marriage and home. We want our husbands to be able to tell us how they feel and what’s up. Mind you, Men are not great communicators, but you can change that to a very large extent.

PRAYER POINTS

Proverbs 18:22 (NCV) When a man finds a wife, he finds something good. It shows that the Lord is pleased with him.

Since the day I read this scripture through the lenses of the Holy Spirit, my life has never been the same. Do you understand the high position God places you when you become the wife or even wife-to-be? Your presence in your husband’s life is like an assurance your husband have that indeed, he has been favored. Your husband has every reason to walk with his head high up.

  • Father, I am so happy that I am the wife of (husband’s name). I am thankful for making me fit into your perfect plan of favoring and blessing my husband. Today, I have come to ask of you and receive for (husband’s name) all and more that is due him. I am a good thing and I ask all these by virtue of the position you have placed me in in (husband’s name) life in Jesus name.

Proverbs 12:18 (NCV) Careless words stab like a sword, but wise words bring healing.
Colossians 4:6 (NCV) When you talk, you should always be kind and pleasant so you will be able to answer everyone in the way you should.

I said it before and I say it again, the words that pierces deeply are the words of a spouse. If every time, your husband has to say something to you, its always harsh and unkind, it would be difficult to be under his leadership. Our husbands must know the right words to say, how to say it and when to say it.

  • I receive for you (husband’s name) wise words, loving word, words that heal. Even when you have to correct me on an issue or we are discussing, I pray that all that would come out of your mouth would be loving words. Words that would make me fall in love with your leadership, words that will make submitting to you easy and sweet in Jesus name.

Jeremiah 1:5,8,9 (NCV) “Before I made you in your mother’s womb, I chose you. Before you were born, I set you apart for a special work. I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Don’t be afraid of anyone, because I am with you to protect you,” says the Lord. Then the Lord reached out his hand and touched my mouth. He said to me, “See, I am putting my words in your mouth.

When God created your husband, he automatically appointed them as the prophet. The beautiful thing is that in Christian marriage, the husband is the prophet of his home. Now, who is a prophet? He is one that speaks God’s word boldly without fear or favor. In marriage, our husbands must be bold, they must be able to speak on behalf of their home boldly, they must be able to defend you boldly.

  • (Husband’s name), I remove from you the fear of people that would make you cower in your position as a leader and much more a prophet in this marriage and home. I receive for you boldness to answer for me and our family when the need arises. When you are lost for words or short of words, I declare that you receive the touch of the Lord and he put the right words in your mouth in Jesus name.

Proverbs 18:2 (NCV) Fools do not want to understand anything. They only want to tell others what they think.
Philippians 2:4 (NCV) Do not be interested only in your own life, but be interested in the lives of others.

No one is ever happy when they aren’t listened to or not put first. No one likes to be a second option, how much more in marriage. No wife wants to always be told what to do as though she has no mind of her own. At the same time, no wife wants to be left out or seen as a second option. A true leader always put others before them and always want to hear what others think.

  • (Husband’s name), I pray that you will be understanding and always listen to what I think. I pray that your heart is open to suggestions as regards matters that concern our marriage and home. I receive for you grace to always think of what I think and always think of what I can contribute to the success of this marriage in Jesus name.

Proverbs 27:23,24 (NCV) Be sure you know how your sheep are doing, and pay attention to the condition of your cattle. Riches will not go on forever, nor do governments go on forever.

When I read these verses, it basically summarized how every husband should lead. Have you ever seen a shepherd? I grew up in the north and those shepherd who lead on those sheep or cows, would always ensure all their flock or herd are complete. If one is missing, they go out in search. Every husband or father is the shepherd of his home and he must lead so.

  • (Husband’s name), today I pray for you that the attention we need as your herd, you will give to us. You will care for each and everyone of us with the care appropriate for us. By virtue of your position as Shepherd of this family, none of your flock will stray, none of your flock will go missing, you will go to sleep at night knowing that you have paid attention to your flock. Every day if Christ tarries, we will continually enjoy the care of you our Shepherd in Jesus Name.

Lastly, Psalm 37:5 (NCV) Depend on the Lord; trust him, and he will take care of you.
Romans 8:28 (NCV) We know that in everything God works for the good of those who love him.[e]They are the people he called, because that was his plan.

  • (Husband’s name), I declare that you will depend on God for guidance on how best to lead us. I declare that you will accept help from the Lord to guide us right. You will constantly be in touch with heaven for instructions on how to lead this family in Jesus name.

DECLARATIONS AND CONFESSIONS

  • I declare that (husband’s name) will depend on the Lord, trust the Lord and relax in His care.
  • I declare that you (husband’s name) would not let anyone look down on you but you will set an example for the type of husband every woman should have who leads like Christ in words, in love, in faith and in character.
  • I declare that you (husband’s name) can do all things through Christ who will always make you strong.
  • I declare that even when you are under pressure to be a leader that doesn’t care about my opinion, you will be strong and bold to continue instead as the leader God has made you and we will all be happy under your leadership.

All these I have declared in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen!!!

God bless you and see you tomorrow.

#BWPC – DAY 4

Welcome to Day four of the Beautiful Wives Prayer Challenge. Please before I go on, I want to plead with you all that you share these posts to your friends, family, strangers and everyone. These prayers should get to as many women out there as possible.

Without mincing words, we would be praying for Direction and Prosperity. Singles who are interested should join in, especially the one for today. Direction is very important for any woman who wants to get prosperity. Be it financial prosperity, marital prosperity, character prosperity, and whatever areas of your life you want to prosper in.

Direction is “a course along which someone or something moves.” “The management or guidance of someone or something.” While I searched for the meaning of direction, these two were the ones that explained better what I am trying to say. The Bible is filled with examples of people who followed direction and prospered. So you see that God is very much interested in prospering us. Don’t be a woman who is satisfied with only her husband prospering. Be one who looks out to contribute to the prosperity of your home.

PRAYER POINTS.

  • Thank you Lord for the opportunity to come before you once again to cast my burdens on you. I have come with an open heart and open hands to receive from you for myself and for my husband, ALL that you have reserved for us in Jesus Name.

Ruth 3:3-5 (NLT) “Now do as I tell you—take a bath and put on perfume and dress in your nicest clothes. Then go to the threshing floor, but don’t let Boaz see you until he has finished eating and drinking. Be sure to notice where he lies down; then go and uncover his feet and lie down there. He will tell you what to do.” “I will do everything you say,” Ruth replied.”

Very often than not, God always use someone to confirm a way in which he is directing us. From the above verses, the modern day woman would say, No! I cannot do that, it would look as if I am desperate. The direction that sometimes lead to our prosperity may be us going outside of the norm to ask for that help. Are you too proud to ask for what you want? Ruth wasn’t and she went from one who picked up after others to the wife of the man who was the boss.

  • Father, I receive for myself and my husband today a humble spirit to listen to instruction. I receive for us the readiness to obey and follow in the direction you have given us. I ask that we won’t be so proud as to ask for what we need from who we need it. Help us Lord not to miss out because we want to appease to the ideas of others in Jesus Name.

1Kings 4:3-7 (NLT) And Elisha said, “Borrow as many empty jars as you can from your friends and neighbors. Then go into your house with your sons and shut the door behind you. Pour olive oil from your flask into the jars, setting each one aside when it is filled.” So she did as she was told. Her sons kept bringing jars to her, and she filled one after another. Soon every container was full to the brim! “Bring me another jar,” she said to one of her sons. “There aren’t any more!” he told her. And then the olive oil stopped flowing. When she told the man of God what had happened, he said to her, “Now sell the olive oil and pay your debts, and you and your sons can live on what is left over.”

I am sure that if this woman was in this age, she may have wanted to Instagram the miracle or even do a live video. There are sometimes that secrecy is the direction the Lord wants us to go to enjoy his blessings. This woman was to do this behind closed doors. How many times have God told us to do things in secret but because we want to show off or seek the praise of men, we do it in the open?

  • Father, your ways are not mine but they are always always the best. Today I receive for me and my husband the grace to keep secret what you want us to keep secret and wait for the appropriate time to show what you have done for us. I give you permission to stop us when we want to show off what you want us to hide before its time. Help us to obey fully every instruction that you give us directly or through others on our way to success in Jesus name.

Because of the many lessons wrapped up within these verses, we will be praying on it even more. We live in a world where things that should be private are now public. Everyone shows off this or that, with almost no caution whatsoever.

  • You will say, Father, even when the temptation come to show off before time, give me grace to not yield. Keep a guard over me and my husband and deliver us from impatience or haste. Open our eyes to know what we should let out and what we should keep till a later time or not. Help us not to be carried away with the competition of the world and stray from the path you have directed us to walk in in Jesus name.

James 1:5-7 (NLT) If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.

There will be times in our live when we will need the right direction to go, either in our relationship with others or our businesses or our career. There is always one person who will never judge you or rebuke you for asking – GOD. The only thing is that we must be ready to obey the instructions that would be given. Only then can we get the prosperity that we desire. Asking is always the easy part, following through is the hard part but the crucial one.

  • Today you’ll say, Father, help me to always run to you for direction in every area of my life including those that I can figure out. Help me Lord to follow through all the directions you will give me. When it doesn’t look like what I expect it to be, I ask that you place a picture of my end result in front of me to stir up faith in me to go on in Jesus name.

Psalm 32:8 (ERV) The Lord says, “I will teach you and guide you in the way you should live. I will watch over you and be your guide.
Psalm 25:4-5 (ERV) Lord, help me learn your ways. Show me how you want me to live. Guide me and teach me your truths. You are my God, my Savior. You are the one I have been waiting for.

How many times have the Lord given us directions, taught us and guided us and we just don’t put it to practical use? You learn from what you are taught. You live by how you are guided.

  • Father, I am here with my pen and paper to write down everything you teach me. As you teach me and show me everything I need to prosper in ever area of my life, help me to put it to practical use. Help me to never be tired of learning and help me to live by the guidance you have provided for me in Jesus Name. 

Lastly, Isaiah 30:21 (NCV) If you go the wrong way—to the right or to the left—you will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the right way. You should go this way.”
Isaiah 58:11 (NCV) The Lord will always lead you. He will satisfy your needs in dry lands and give strength to your bones. You will be like a garden that has much water, like a spring that never runs dry.

  • Father I thank you because you will always direct me in the right way. I thank you because you are prospering me and mine to flourish like a garden that has much water in the dry land. I will always listen to your direction Lord and in turn prosper on everyside in Jesus name.

DECLARATIONS AND CONFESSIONS.

  • I declare my ears are attentive to listen to instructions directing me in the part of my prosperity.
  • I declare that I would not be too proud to ask for help from they that have been directed to help me.
  • I declare that I wouldn’t be overtaken with a proud and ‘show off’ spirit that I stray from the path, I have been directed to follow in Jesus Name.

All these I have declared in Jesus Name. Amen!!! Feel free to declare the scriptures over you and yours. Personalize all the above scriptures and read it out loud to yourself.

Thanks for joining in. Tomorrow, we begin praying for our husbands which will go on for four days and the last four days for our children.

God bless you

#BWPC – DAY 3

Welcome to day three. Today we will be praying regarding our health.

As a wife and mom or mom-to-be, we operate at a high stress level. Funny enough, you don’t have to be a working mum to be stressed. Staying-at-home is even more stressful. Nine in Ten homes, feels it hard when mom is sick. Children need mom, Husband need wife and when she is not strong in her body, it tells on the home. Perfect health does not mean you never fall ill, or come down with a flu. Perfect health means your body is equipped with all the needed vitality to come out strong and stay strong. Perfect health means you are doing all the right things to keep your body healthy.

PRAYER POINTS

  • Father, I thank you that I am here in good health making these prayers to you. I thank you for all the times I fell sick and come out victorious. For all the stuffy noses, all the headaches, all the cuts and bruises gotten in the kitchen. It wasn’t more than it was and here I am saying thank you Lord for keeping me on my two foot healthy to run around daily activities from the start of the year till today. Accept my thanksgiving in Jesus Name.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (CEV) “You surely know that your body is a temple where the Holy Spirit lives. The Spirit is in you and is a gift from God. You are no longer your own. God paid a great price for you. So use your body to honor God.”

The context of the scripture was in relation to sexual immorality but in this regard, we will be studying as relates to our health. Anything that will not do your body good, shouldn’t be put in it. Some of us don’t care about what we eat or drink; anything goes. And this “anything” has cost many their health.

  • Father, for all the times I have been careless with what goes into my body, I ask for mercy today. Do not let me suffer the consequences of my actions. Teach me what I need to do to correct these wrongs and help me to be disciplined enough to say no to that which will pollute my body. Now I know you pride in your temple – my body – and all I will do from now on is feed it with only things that will bring honor to you in Jesus Name.

Acts 27:33-34 (NCV) “Just before dawn Paul began persuading all the people to eat something. He said, “For the past fourteen days you have been waiting and watching and not eating. Now I beg you to eat something. You need it to stay alive. None of you will lose even one hair off your heads.””

I am sure you have heard this phrase, “Food is Medicine.” Indeed it is. Even Apostle Paul knew it. Now while we need food to stay alive, not all food can keep us alive. In fact some can kill us. Sometimes, we can even innocently eat something that harms us and that’s what we will be praying about.

  • Father, while I know I need food to stay alive, I give you express permission to allow only those that will keep me alive. Where it is that I am about to eat that which will harm me or kill me, I ask that you cause me to suddenly lose appetite in Jesus Name.

Jeremiah 33:6 (NIV) “Nevertheless, I will bring health and healing to it; I will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security.”

There is this peace you have when you are strong and healthy. Also your husband have peace of mind when his wife is healthy.

  • Father, I permit only peace within my marriage and within my home. The peace that comes from knowing we are in great health, we receive today. Every cells and every organ within my body that needs your attention, I authorize you to heal and get back to perfect condition. The peace that passes all human understanding is our portion because I enjoy perfect health in Jesus Name.

Proverbs 4:20-23 (NCV) “My child, pay attention to my words; listen closely to what I say. Don’t ever forget my words; keep them always in mind. They are the key to life for those who find them; they bring health to the whole body. Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.

God has given wisdom and knowledge in the study of science to man and that’s why we have Medical professionals. Every once in a while, its advisable that we go for checkup. Now if we do adhere to this advice, we will have saved ourselves. Sometimes what we think of these professionals have deprived us of health.

  • Father, open my eyes to see when I need help and the advice of a medical professional. Open my ears to listen and open my heart to understand that these people are allowed by you to keep me in check as regards my health. When an instruction is given that would benefit my health, help me to obey. Whatever wrong mindset, I have developed toward receiving medical advice, I ask that you cleanse me of such in Jesus Name.

Hosea 4:6a (ERV) “My people are destroyed because they have no knowledge.”

I have come to understand that ignorance can be deadly. Some people just don’t care to know about things. In fact they prefer to not know. I am sure you have heard, “what a man does not know does not kill him.” Unfortunately, that is not the case. A lot have died because they don’t know. Now what do you do with the knowledge you have?

  • Father, I receive for myself extensive knowledge about all that I need to do to keep me healthy. Knowledge about what to eat, when to eat and how to prepare what to eat. Knowledge of exercises that I need to do to keep me active. Knowledge about the various signs and symptoms to watch out for that need medical attention. After I have known all these, dear Lord I ask that you take sleep away from me, till I have acted on these knowledge in Jesus Name.

Finally 3 John 1:2 (NCV) “My dear friend, I know your soul is doing fine, and I pray that you are doing well in every way and that your health is good.”

  • Father, as much as you are interested in my spiritual well being, you are interested in my physical health. Give me the grace to pay attention to my health as much as I pay attention to my spiritual health in Jesus Name.

DECLARATIONS AND CONFESSIONS

  • I confess all the times I disrespected my body and put in her “anything”. I declare that from today, my body is fed with only that which will nourish her and kept her healthy.
  • I confess my lack of knowledge or denial of knowledge as regards my well being. I declare that from today, I listen to medical advice and do my part to stay healthy as the Lord work on those area that are beyond me.
  • I declare upon me and mine the peace that come with good health. I declare my husband is peaceful because I am healthy.
  • I declare that I am healed of every sickness. I declare that every cell or organs that need your touch receives it even when I am not aware.
  • I declare that as I go about my duties as a wife and mother, my mind is healthy, my body is healthy and my family is healthy.

All these I have confessed and declared in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Amen!!!

God bless you and see you tomorrow.

P.S. Prayer points and Declaration would be posted at Night during the week and evenings during weekends.

#BWPC – DAY 2

Welcome to day two of this challenge. Today we would be thanking God for our homes and asking him to help us to build a beautiful marriage.

Looking back to the start of the year, there is so much we can look on and be thankful to God for. They don’t have to be big things really. Just add up all the small things that has happened in your marriage, you will see that indeed they were big things wrapped up in small packages.

Now I’ve come to understand that building my marriage is a long term project. It’s not like building a house, so no need to rush. A house built today can be pulled down tomorrow but I am sure that you are just like me who doesn’t want to pull down her marriage but instead build it and continue building it through your actions, your words, your character, your attitude and everything; such that when it looks as though that’s the best of it, there is another added feature that beautifies it even more.

PRAYER POINTS

  • Father, I thank you for all you have done for me. I know I may have not regarded them because they felt small and insignificant but today Lord, I’ve come to say thank you because, to have even done these little things, you had me in mind and for this I am so grateful.

Luke 14:28-30 (NCV) “If you want to build a tower, you first sit down and decide how much it will cost, to see if you have enough money to finish the job. If you don’t, you might lay the foundation, but you would not be able to finish. Then all who would see it would make fun of you, saying, ‘This person began to build but was not able to finish.’”

Before we said I do to our husbands that beautiful day, we had the opportunity of saying no but we sat down, prayed about it and made a decision to be his good thing. Much interestingly about this decision is that, we did it with God so, we have all it takes to finish well.

  • Father, I know you gave me the power to choose who to build with and I thought very well about it. I didn’t just even go ahead, I sought your opinion and guidance in this regard, so Lord I degree that all I need to build a beautiful marriage structure that reflects your original design – so beautiful and full of love is available to me today and forever in Jesus Name. I have counted the cost, I have began putting a piece every day. I give you express permission to continually manufacture all the resources I need and would need and even those I do not know I would need but you know I would need them. No one would laugh at me because, I will finish well in Jesus Name.

Ephesians 4:16 (NLT) “He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.”

There is something about building with the Lord, He ensures everything fit. Now our marriages can be liken to the body, every part has its role to play to help build a healthy one.

  • Father, there is a special role I have to play and a special work for me to do to build a healthy marriage. Today I receive all that I need to carry out this special work. I ask for the strength to do my part and to do it with so much love in Jesus Name.

Ephesians 4:15 (TLB) “Instead, we will lovingly follow the truth at all times—speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly—and so become more and more in every way like Christ who is the Head of his body, the Church.”

One of the secret to building successfully is being truthful every step of the way. Telling each other how you feel about a thing truthfully and not just to please the other goes a long way to building a beautiful marriage, all the more beautiful when it is done lovingly.

  • Dear Lord, I receive the grace and boldness to lovingly speak the truth to my husband on how I feel about a thing or more in our marriage. Help me to not stay silent and then become judgmental when it doesn’t go the right way. Even though I know somethings the truth can be difficult to swallow, I pray that you go ahead and prepare a slippery part for it to be easily swallowed and digested to bring forth great results. Even for the times when I have to hear the truth, I receive the grace to take it in lovingly, knowing that truthfulness is paramount in building a beautiful marriage.

Romans 14:19 (ERV) “So let’s try as hard as we can to do what will bring peace. Let’s do whatever will help each other grow stronger in faith.”
I Thessalonians 5:11 (NLT) “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.”

There will be times when our husbands would lose faith about certain situations and thing in the marriage. These can go from financial to family to work to anything. When our spouses are running low on faith, it can trigger a negative shot at our marriage and it can shake the peace of our homes. This is where we come in to build them up, ensure we do all within our power to be at peace. This can be exhausting and that’s why we are going to ask God to help us.

  • Father, I know challenges will come up here and there, that’s why today I am receiving in advance the right words to say, the right things to do to build my husbands faith, to bring peace to his heart when he needs it the most. I trust your help to be available for me at this time and always in Jesus Name.

Ecclesiastes 4:9,10 (NCV) “Two people are better than one, because they get more done by working together. If one falls down, the other can help him up.

In Marriage, there are two people and these two must work together to build up their home. If one neglects the other and live as though he/she is alone, it will be difficult to build that marriage God’s way.

  • Father, I am not alone in this marriage neither is my husband alone. I ask that the spirit of building alone or individually will be far from us. I receive for us today, the willingness to always work together, help each other and always think of the other because this would help us successfully build our marriage just as you intend. Always remind us that we are not one person but two people who should work together towards a singular goal in Jesus Name.

Lastly, 2 Corinthians 13:11 (ERV) “Now, brothers and sisters, be filled with joy. Try to make everything right, and do what I have asked you to do. Agree with each other, and live in peace. Then the God of love and peace will be with you.”

When building a house or a product, there must always be an agreement on what is to be built. After agreeing on things, all parties involved must always be on the same page. So also in marriage, we and our husbands must always be on the same page, we must also always agree on things.

  • At this point, you pray and say, Father, all that you know we need to agree on to build a healthy marriage, give us the grace to agree to disagree on. Even when I don’t seem to see it clearly at the time, give me the grace to always be on the same page with my husband on things that are right and are for the good of this marriage. I silence every disagreeing voices that want to make me feel my way is better when in fact my husbands is. As regards every area of our marriage Lord that we need to build up, I ask that we peacefully agree on the right thing. Your word says that “two can work together when they agree” and this oh lord is my request that my husband and I live and work in agreement in Jesus name.

DECLARATIONS AND CONFESSIONS

  • I confess my tendency to always build our marriage as though it were only me in it and I declare that from today onward, I will work together with my husband to build a healthy and beautiful marriage.
  • I confess my untrue statements and things that I have said unlovingly and I declare that from now on, my marriage is built on truth that is conveyed to each other lovingly.
  • I declare that (husband’s name) and I will work together because we agree on all the right things.
  • I declare that the right words to say to build my husband and build our marriage will only be those I say from now onward. (Go on and confess and declare as led.)

All these I have confessed and declared in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen!!!

Thanks you for joining in Day two. See you here for Day three.

#BWPC – DAY 1

Today we will be praying on Forgiveness and Submission.

If you have come to this challenge hurt or having something you are still holding against your spouse, you will need to address it first. Well for others, maybe it’s not now but sometime in the year, you got unhappy with your spouse and you two didn’t properly settle it but just let it slide and when he does one or two things, it triggers this buried hurt, you will need to address it too.

Submission is a debatable topic but as Christians the word of God should supersede all debates. A woman doesn’t have to be rebellious or contentious in her marriage to be non-submissive. God is the all knowing one and he sees our hearts as much as he sees our actions. Many of us aren’t submissive in our conversation, in our decisions and other areas. The reality of Christian marriage is that no matter how much we do or say, it doesn’t change God’s order of things neither the word of God.

PRAYER POINTS

  • Father I thank you for the opportunity to come before you to pray, I ask that the blessings attached to participating and the testimonies that follows will be mine in Jesus Name.

Mark 11:24-25 (NLT) “I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours. But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too. ””

  • Father, I have come to raise an altar to you for the next 12 days. I bring my heart to you, it’s been hurt and I know that I cannot pray and expect answers without forgiving. Let the healing power of your touch flow through ever part of my heart and quiet the raging storm or anger. I know I can’t do it on my own and so I ask that you help me. I forgive (husbands name) in Jesus Name.

1 John 1:9 (NCV) “But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done.”

You don’t need to commit an obvious sin for your prayers to be hindered. Unforgiveness is as much a sin that can hinder any prayer. So today, we will be confessing every of our anger, our hurts to the Lord and putting the Lord in charge of cleansing us of this hurt.

  • Dear Lord, (husband’s name) has done (mention it), but I know holding on to it is sin in your eyes. So today Lord this is how I feel (mention it). If you oh Lord have not kept record of all my wrong doings and dealt with me so, I erase every of my husband wrong doings and I ask that the mercy that sorted me out is accorded (husband’s name) today in Jesus Name.

Colossians 3:18 (MSG) “Wives, understand and support your husbands by submitting to them in ways that honor the Master.”

  • Father where it is that I have not been an understanding and supportive wife by questioning the authority of my husband, today I ask that you forgive me Lord. You have placed him in a position of authority over me as it pleases you and I ask today that you help me understand that and seek to support him by respecting your order in this marriage.

James 1:19-20 (NCV) “My dear brothers and sisters, always be willing to listen and slow to speak. Do not become angry easily, because anger will not help you live the right kind of life God wants.”

  • Father, I know many at times, I have not shown submission by my unwillingness to listen and by talking too early and getting angry so quickly. This is not the kind of wife you designed me to be. Today I ask that you forgive me and I put my ears under submission to listen and my mouth under submission to talk at the right time and when I’ve thought things through and to also not be a fool that gets angry so fast, because Lord your word says that “anger rests in the bosom of a fool.”

Ephesians 4:29 (NCV) “When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need—words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you.”

The words that pierce through the heart like a knife is one said by a spouse. This is because you will expect them to only say words that are kind and would build one up. How many times have your words been so destructive? How many times have your words brought down your husband? How many time have your husband got to thinking about what you just said?

  • We’ll pray and say Father, where it is my words have broken down my husband, done him more harm and even reduced him to nothing, I ask that you forgive me Lord. From today, my words would build my husband, my words would make him stronger, my words would the right one said in season in Jesus name.

Lastly, Ephesians 4:2-3 (NCV) “Always be humble, gentle, and patient, accepting each other in love. You are joined together with peace through the Spirit, so make every effort to continue together in this way.”

We all want our husbands to accept us for who we are. We want them to look past our insufficiency and love us anyway. How about us? Have we come to accept him as he is? Have we come to realize that he is different from other people’s husbands? Do we see ourselves better than him simply because according to society standards, he isn’t up to our level but we married him anyway?

  • Today, we’ll end this session by saying, Lord have mercy on me for all the times I compared my husband with others, for all the times I was a nagging wife because he couldn’t satisfy me like the other woman’s husband did her or I felt I was above him in every standard. Lord, from today, the peace that a union sealed by Christ experiences will be mine. Father, from today, I will be humble, gentle and patient with my husband in Jesus Name.

DECLARATIONS AND CONFESSIONS

  • I declare that according to the divine order of Christian Marriage as God designed, I will be submissive to (husband’s name) in all ways that pleases the Lord.
  • I will not be move by the ideologies of man to see myself as the authority in my marriage but respect the position the Father -God has accorded you.
  • I declare that my ears will listen, heart process, before my mouth speak.
  • I declare that I will not be a fool who carries about an angry spirit.
  • I confess my unhappiness towards (husband’s name) and I declare that until he reaches the biblical limit for offense in a day, I will always forgive him.
  • I confess my impatience many times and I declare over me a peaceful nature that will help me be gentle and patient with my husband always.

All these I have confessed and declared in the name of the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen!!!

Thank you for joining in today; see you tomorrow.

God bless you.

BEAUTIFUL WIVES PRAYER CHALLENGE

I remember so vividly how I found out that I could pray to God as regards my husband. It was the best miracle for me. I love it that my husband knows that I always pray for him and would always call on me to do so either for his personal life or work or anything.

It was early in our marriage, we were arguing and disagreeing so much even over trivial things. This was not how I pictured my marriage. It was even more troubling to me knowing that there were some people waiting to see what will become of my marriage in 2 years.

When I purchased a copy of the Power of a Praying Wife, I knew how little I could achieve fighting or nagging and how much I could achieve praying. God worked on me and changed me first. He opened my eyes to see the changes He would effect in my husband. He gave me reason to love my husband so dearly that anything I desire for him, I pray about it for him. Prayer is the best tool I have and I have no regrets whatsoever.

Now, I want to explain how I pray. I do this by talking to God as though he was in the room physically with me. The way I would pour out my displeasure to my husband or sister or friend, I decided why not pour it out to God. In scriptures, it says “Cast your cares on the Lord.” You don’t need to bother helping the Lord because how He carries it is not your business, just put everything on him. I promise you this, He will carry it, no matter how much.

Feel free to go beyond the prayer points given and please this challenge is not about revenge. It’s all about Love. It’s about putting another before yourself.

Are you currently unhappy with your spouse and you don’t feel like praying for him, you can still join in. The first two day are prayers for our selves, so communicate your displeasure to the Lord. Tell him how you feel and tell him to help you forgive and pray for him lovingly.

My sincere prayer is that you who is partaking in this challenge will have a testimony beyond your expectations.

Thank you for choosing to join the challenge.

I welcome you. God bless you.

MARRIAGE: YOURS IS UNIQUE

As I come to the end of these series, I got to thinking how unique every marriage is. The way my husband does his things are different from how another does and I as a wife must learn to recognize that. So also the husbands must learn to understand their wives and stop comparing with another.

Before I proceed, do well to catch up on Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4 of these series.

I was one of those wives that had breakfast in bed after our wedding day. While I still do sometimes, I found out that now it’s rather me who does breakfast in bed for hubby. Now almost every new bride would want breakfast in bed and that may not be who your husband is. He may be one that prepares the meal and serves on the table and all you have to do is come out and dine.

I learnt early or rather before marriage that I must not compare my husband or even my marriage with another as sometimes what you see is far from the truth in a good or bad way.

Now, marriage journeys are embarked on mostly offline. The hard work and sacrifices done are also behind the scenes. You and your partner must learn to work as a team to plan out how your journey will go. Have a goal, have plans and lots of great dreams. Many sweet marriages you see around, the partners are working. They are forbearing, forgiving, living transparently and loving continuously.

Now in the area of romance, your husband may not be the one who is all kissing and holding hands outside but never fails to hug you or kiss you at home. You must respect that and not compare him with your friends whose husbands do all that in public. He doesn’t have to do it in public for you to know he loves you.

I read of a story of a married woman who always told her friend who was also married not to take nonsense from the husband but instead was a “submissive” wife to her own husband. Unfortunately the friend began to adhere to the advice of her friend and this lead to the collapse of her once great marriage.

Now men are not exempt from this. That your friend’s wife does all the work around the house with her husband not visibly helping out doesn’t mean you now stop helping your wife out. How sure are you that he isn’t working behind closed doors or even the one doing all the work while the wife boss him around? We all know that this happen.

Your marriage is your making. If you don’t put the mortar between the bricks, you will one day come back to meet the bricks all over the place.

You and your spouse must ensure that you embrace each other in everything. Write your own marital story that inspires others to make their own marriage as unique as God designed it. Stop listening to the marital competitors which we have all over the place. Not every marriage that appears to work is truly working and most times people are too busy building and beautifying their marriages that you may never see anything.

I hope you have picked one or two things from these series. Though this is not my strong point of discussion, I’ve been led to share with you and I am glad I finally did. I pray you see your own marriage from the eyes of God and not what society expects of you and build and beautify it so.

I want to use this opportunity to invite you to join in the upcoming “Beautiful Wives Prayer Challenge.” This will be the third edition and I promise you it will be with a difference. I am expectant that God will do something beautiful for you and yours.

Thanks for reading, God bless you and Stay beautiful always.

***Pictures are from Google.

MARRIAGE: Prayer maintains it.

Welcome back to the marriage series I’ve been sharing on. If you are seeing this for the first time, feel free to start from Part one then go on to Part two and to Part three.

My husband and I were great friends before walking down the aisle and it was so beautiful to see our friendship or relationship journey which began in 2010 continue for life. After we were joined in church and reception had ended, we headed home to begin our forever journey.

Now there were two different individuals living together and for me, I love well laid beds, things kept in order, and many more. Thanks to OCD. Now these little things were always getting on my nerves and I also was getting on my husband’s nerves. If I were to mention, you will laugh at the things that tripped us off. But it was real.

Four months into our marriage, I saw a book with a colleague and I went online and searched for it. “The Power of Praying” books by Stormie Omartian was just what I needed. I purchased them and began to read it, digest it and developed a habit of praying for my husband and I soon found out, things I didn’t tolerate, I began to. Things that tripped my dearest off, didn’t. A new lifestyle began. That doesn’t mean we all of a sudden didn’t offend each other. Off course, we did but it became easy and natural to forbear, forgive and to apologize.

Praying for your spouse and your marriage addresses so many areas that words would naturally not be effective in. Every godly marriage should be maintained by prayer. Husbands pray for your wives and wives should pray for their husband. While sometimes the enemy try to always make us see every fault in our spouse, we also need to pray that God takes away the critical spirit in us and replace with a forbearing one.

When I began to see the power prayer has in my home, I’ll rather pray about a matter before telling my boyfriend because after this, I either know how best to bring my request or my husband just is receptive to my request.

The mistake most couple make is that we feel that the man would all of a sudden change and same for the woman; but you must understand that they are humans and something they have always done or a particular way they have always lived, for over 20-30 years doesn’t just take few nights to change. You must be ready to maintain your marriage with prayer. Just like weight loss, you maintain a new acquired weight by exercising and eating healthy, so also your marriage. You’ve gotten the man or woman God has given you, maintain them by praying for them and confessing scriptures over their lives.

Prayer is the one tool that fixes everything but you must know that if you want everything fixed, you must be ready to be fixed by this powerful tool. Answers may not come as suddenly as you expect because many a-times, the prayer needs to work in us to open our eyes and mind to see the results it would bring out in our spouse.

The birth of “Beautiful Wives Prayer Challenge” was as a result of this. To see Christian women and men harness the free powerful tool God has given us and take charge as we build a long lasting and love living marriage. We would be having our third edition in December and I invite you to join in. Twelve days of praying for you and your spouse.

I will be sharing the last on this series next week. Until then, remain in God’s love and stay beautiful.